November looks to be the loveliest month to me though I wasn’t
born in November. After my month,
November comes close. Perhaps the beauty of the month is in its pronunciation.
I hope to name one of my unborn children ‘November’. It does sound cool, right?
As much as the weather changes in November,
something hasn’t changed! I have heard it many times when they say it’s a man’s
world, true to it, especially in Africa, it really is. Especially where I come
from, the male dominates the society in politics, corporate organizations and
many more. It is generally believed the females are better as house wives as it
is their duty is to raise the children. In some part of Nigeria, as young as 13
years old they are given up for marriage! This is no fable but a reality check.
While commuting to work, I listened to a drama play addressing the issue of
child marriage in our society. I was taken aback, what does a thirteen year old
girl know about been a wife and mother? A girl that should probably be in in
Jss 1 or 2 is busy performing wifely duties. In my opinion, that’s totally unacceptable and
disgusting! But with a proper and closer
look, the poor are the victim of child marriage.
This week alone I have had course to experience first-hand
how we men can be so mean. What is the
problem with men these days? Honestly speaking, we are messing up big time! Its
not a thing to be proud of neither for me to be seen as a weakling. Not one, two or three stories, but many. Our
streets are filled with brilliant young ladies doing well in their careers but
are unwilling to settle down with any man. They don’t care about what the
society might say because the question is: will the society be there for them when the
man behaves irresponsibly? A society that is already skewed to favour the men
will disappoint them at their moment of justice. I hear the reason most black
men are in jail in the USA is because they fail to control their anger hence
they turn to wife beaters, before you know it they are in jail! That’s a society that protects the female
gender! As big as Mike Tyson was, he served years in jail for rape at the peak of his career in the boxing profession. His status in the society was not
considered.
Right from childhood, a girl child is being taught how to be a
good wife and mother but never taught how to deal with the moment when the love of
her life acts irresponsibly. She’s told
to be submissive but not told of what to do when the man comes back home drunk
one day and turns her to a punching bag.
The man will walk the streets free, watch soccer or have a drink with
friends with a feeling that he served justice physically abusing his better
half when he’s supposed to be locked up in jail for it. Literally speaking , she
has been taught how to die in silence instead of how to be a wife! How sad! Our
society must rise up to this challenge and knock out this wrong conception
about the female gender. The female gender must not be seen as a
lesser being; they are not and will never be.
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